Practise Makes Perfect – NOT!

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First off, it’s NOT about being perfect. Don’t get me wrong; I’m not saying you don’t need perfectiondestroysto practise. Even the pros continue to practise, because as it is said, “If you don’t use it, you lose it.” But perfection is an ideal, and an ideal is not only for the most part, unreasonable, but it is also static. As things are always changing, to survive, we must also adapt to those changes. Ideals don’t allow for this. Instead, we need to look at it as a model and be prepared to make changes, if and when necessary. We set ourselves up for failure when we aim for perfection. We need to practise to get better, not perfect. We need to strive for excellence. We need to do the best we can do – NOT perfection.

If you strive for perfection, you can caught up in a whirl wind of thinking that you are not good enough. Give yourself a chance and realize that PerfectNothingit’s not meant to be perfect the first time you attempt something (or any other time). Don’t let yourself get paralyzed with the fear of not being good enough before you even begin! No matter how slow the progress is, you are still moving forward (“One step forward, two steps back” may be slow, but it’s better than being stuck and not moving at all.)

You are your worst enemy, if you believe in perfection. If you do make a mistake, no – correction – when you make a mistake – own up to it. After all, you are human. At that time, I’m sure you did what you thought was best, considering the circumstances. Perhaps the time in question wasn’t picture perfect (as it often isn’t). All you can do is make the best out of your current situation. Don’t keep replaying the event – “Why did I do that? I should have…I wish I had…” Don’t beat yourself up. Hindsight really is 20/20. And you can’t go back and redo it now, anyways.

If you did the best you can do, you need to let it go and move on. Let yourself be satisfied, and let yourself move on. And don’t let this discourage you. Nobody likes to make striveforprogressmistakes, but you set yourself up for failure when you expect perfection on your first attempt (or any attempt). Ease up – it’s okay to make mistakes. It’s not only part of the process, it’s a progression. That’s right – you’re making progress even when you make a mistake! The important part is what follows: stick with it, learn from it, and try again!

worthitYou will need to have many practice runs before you’re excellent at something. But stay focused. And remember, it’s okay to seek guidance. You’re not expected to be an expert when you’re new at something. It may take longer than expected, and that’s okay (But, again, don’t overthink things – know when to let it go and move on.) You may also have doubts when you find it really challenging, also expected (Nothing worth having, comes easy). But in the end, you will come to realize that it was worth the struggle.

Rather than focusing on perfection, just be your true authentic self. Be in the moment, feel it, and it will fall into place. It will feel right. There may be certain steps you have bepresentnotperfectstudied, but at some point you need to let go of that because it’s already part of who you are. You know what you’re doing now. Trying to remember that text book example exactly step by step is counterproductive now. Get over it! Not only that, there’s theory and then there’s application. That’s right – sometimes a curve ball is thrown at you and you need to deal with it – just follow your instincts and do the best you can. Remember, everything is in a state of flux and things are always evolving. We, too, always need to adjust and rise to a new level of excellence.

Perspectives, Perceptions, and Expectations

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Perspectives, Perceptions, and Expectations – A Poem by Darlene Wiggers

There are three sides to every story:

Your side,

Their side,

And somewhere in the middle is the truth.

So don’t judge.

You don’t have all the facts.

You don’t know where people have been,

Or where they’re at now.

And on top of that,

Each person’s nature is different:

They may like to talk, they may like to keep to themselves.

They may be more sensitive, or less sensitive than you.

They may be stronger, or weaker than you…

You can apply a spectrum to anything,

And where you lay on it will be different from someone else.

So don’t judge.

Some people judge far too easily and are not very forgiving.

Before you complain about someone else’s faults, take a good look at your own.

Each person has many layers.

And even if someone wears their heart on their sleeve,

You still don’t see it all.

At that moment, they may be strong enough,

And they may be selective in what they choose to reveal.

Someone could be really hurting, and you may not have a clue.

Set high expectations and rise – good words to live by

And usually works.

But sometimes not.

So be prepared to make adjustments.

You may need to lower expectations.

Don’t be so hard on yourself, or others.

You may expect yourself or others to act in a certain way,

Be in a certain place,

Do the appropriate thing –

But maybe that’s not possible at this time.

You may be ready, but at that time others may not be.

Maybe they can’t put on a strong face at that moment.

Maybe they can’t be there for you because they need to be there for themselves.

So give yourself or them a pass, and let it go.

Even if you don’t understand, even if it doesn’t make sense –

Because you don’t really know the whole truth.

 

You Can Only Put Yourself “On Hold” for So Long

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The demands of life are many, and all too often there is little time left for yourself at the end of the day. But as long as you have some time for yourself, it will be okay. Day to day is manageable. Sometimes there are extra demands, and even that’s okay. It’s to be expected – life happens. Although you know that it’s important to have time for yourself, you can put yourself “on hold” when you need to. The problem arises NOT when life throws you a curve ball.  The problem arises when life throws you a few major life curve balls that carry on for too long. When you can’t even do what you need to do, let alone what you want to do, the problems begin.  You know you’re here when it’s an understatement to say that “Life is too demanding” and it’s too easy to say, “I’m not having any fun”. But you carry on by prioritizing because you have to, and you know that it can’t go on like this forever. Then finally when the heaviness begins to lift, you realize that life now has a “new” normal. It’s a slow process “putting back the pieces”, and it does take time. But being “whole” will not happen until you take time out for yourself, for you can only put yourself “on hold” for so long. Rebuild yourself, for you will not be able to be there for others unless and until you are there for yourself.

The Impossible

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THE IMPOSSIBLE – A POEM BY DARLENE WIGGERS

 

Anything is possible

You just have to believe

When everything lines up

It’s easy to achieve

 

Removing limitations

Adjusting expectations

Past, present, future

Is just an illusion of time

 

Forgiving and forgetting

Vulnerability with an open mind

Let loose and see where it takes you

Just give it a try

 

Positivity flows in the right direction

The plan includes unexpected purposes

Turning balanced changes into small miracles

The impossible CAN be in the future!

The Sequel

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The Sequel – A Poem by Darlene Wiggers

Words unspoken

Thoughts that abound

Emotions are reeling

The healing that hurts

 

Once upon a time

Happily ever after

The sequel is ending

A new story begins

 

Pain and suffering

Humour that heals

The heart is aching

Searching for hope

 

Life is for living,

Laughing, loving, and forgiving

Not judging and regretting

But understanding and appreciating

Listen to Your Intuition

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Inspired by K is for Keep Trying No Matter How Hard it Seems – DALAI LAMA -LIVE ONE DAY AT A TIME AND MAKE IT A MASTERPIECE

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I am not a huge roller coaster fan, but I feel that life is like a roller coaster sometimes. The length of a second or a minute is the same in either, however, the perception of it varies depending on your personality or the particular situation. The highs are often fast paced while the lows are long lived. If you like it, you can’t get enough of it and long for more, but if it’s not your cup of tea, you can’t wait for it to be over and don’t want to go through it again. If you are orange, you thrive on the thrills and risks. But some people aren’t built for the ups and downs (yet), and end up “throwing up”.

Mindset is your power. To maneuver through the ups and downs you need to develop “Grit” (Angela Duckworth). When you fail, you may need some time to regroup – take the time if you need it, and if the situation allows for it. You may need to re-evaluate. What does this setback mean? Are you ready to continue on this path, or do you need to redirect? Don’t feel bad. There is value in each situation. Learn from it and grow. Build your resilience for the next challenge you face on the path of your life.

Be open-minded and open up all of your senses. You may need to work on this; practice mindfulness – it helps. Listen to your intuition – sometimes you feel it is or isn’t right, and sometimes you just know. Be open to the signs that are there all around you; sometimes we’re too busy to notice. If the signs are ignored, the price can be steep.

There will be hard times, but if you know this to be your truth, trust in it. Keep the faith, and don’t stop trying.

Focus. Persevere. Triumph.

It comes down to one simple thing: How bad do you want it?

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Inspired by J is for Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it – DALAI LAMA -LIVE ONE DAY AT A TIME AND MAKE IT A MASTERPIECE

There are many ways to define success, but this entry is not about that. For the purpose of this entry, I am thinking of success as something towards which you are working.

Sometimes when you work hard towards something, you may begin to wonder if it is really worth it after all? You are putting in so much time and as the saying goes: “a lot of blood, sweat, and tears”. But remember, no one said it was going to be easy. At this time, you need to dig deep and do some soul searching. You need to ask yourself, “Is this something I really want?” It is important that this is your goal and not someone else’s. After all, it is your life. If it is definitely not what you want, then stop reading right now. But if it is what you want, or even if you’re not sure, please read on. You can decide on this later. Maybe you’ll have an “aha moment”, and realize that it is what you want, after all.

You should try to visualize what things would look like if you achieved this goal. If you have doubts and are not happy with what you see, then paint a different picture:  see it in a positive light; see it as though things worked out. See yourself being confident in this role; see yourself being happy in this role. Now, keep that picture at the forefront of your mind, and don’t let go of it!

“The reason why people give up so fast is because they tend to look at how far they still have to go, instead of how far they have come.” As you work towards a goal, it’s okay to pause and reflect, even if you are so busy. Take a moment, and remember all the little successes that have brought you to this point. Yes, it was hard, but focus on the positive. It might be good to write down your successes and or talk to someone about them. Your successes are very real, and you are the one who did it! You made it happen! Don’t discount this – there is great value in what you have done so far! Give yourself a pat on the back! Take a moment to relish these little successes that have brought you to this point.

“Success is no accident. It’s hard work, perseverance, learning, studying, sacrifice, and most of all, love for what you are doing or learning to do.” “Success demands for sacrifices: Sacrifice of sleep, sacrifice of entertainment, sacrifice of comfort zone.” And

really “it comes down to one simple thing: how bad do you want it?” I know, you’re tired, and you don’t know if you can do this anymore, but you are loved and you have lots of support. Believe in yourself. You can do this! And sacrifice always comes before success, so you’re going to have to work for it. As it is said in microeconomics, there is an “opportunity cost”. You are going to have to give up something in order to get what you want.

You may not even like what you have to do now, but remember the shape of things to come will be different. And what you have to do may make you feel uncomfortable – but you are going to have to get out of your comfort zone to see this through. And you will grow, as a result: “Be willing to sacrifice comfort for growth.” This is the time to remind yourself of: “See the end result in a positive light; see it as though things worked out. See yourself being confident in this role; see yourself being happy in this role. Now, keep that picture at the forefront of your mind, and don’t let go of it.” In other words, “keep your eyes on the prize!”

In the meantime, “Do what you have to do until you can do what you want to do.” And remember, “in order to achieve your goals you must make sacrifices, commit daily, overcome challenges and work your plan. No one can do it for you. It is up to you.” But no matter what, “Never sacrifice these three things: your family, your heart, or your dignity.”

And when you achieve your goal, and you pause, reflect, and judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it, I hope you celebrate and say that it was worth it! The harder you work at something, the more you appreciate the result. This is similar to Newton’s Third Law: “Every action has an equal but opposite reaction.” And if you didn’t work that hard, it’s still a win! But what I mean is that you appreciate it more if you worked harder – it’s the equality of the exchange.

The Greatest Investment of All!

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Inspired by G is for Give More than You Planned To – DALAI LAMA -LIVE ONE DAY AT A TIME AND MAKE IT A MASTERPIECE

The Greatest Investment of All!

We often associate giving with the giving of things or money, but there is so much more to it than this. You can give your love, your time, and you can give of yourself. Consider how valuable these things are.

Think of the times when you have given gifts such as a toy, a sweater, or jewelry. Now compare these to gifts of love and time – how you make someone feel and experiences you share with them. It could be as simple as a compliment or a note of encouragement to brighten someone’s day, or time away with your undivided attention – time without the distractions of cell phones, internet, and television. Giving love and time like this builds character and memories.

And think about how much you give of yourself every single day. What you give is what you get back at least ten-fold. Of course, there are times when you lack motivation and “you’re just not into it”. But it’s important to monitor these times, and not let them become the bulk of your lifetime. “If you are too lazy to plow, don’t expect a harvest.” It’s entirely up to us.  Our life depends on the choices we make each and every day, and these choices not only have an effect on you, but many other people too. You can “give up, give in, or give it all you’ve got.”

And sure, sometimes you get into a rut, and maybe you dream about the life you want. But “you don’t get what you wish for, you get what your work for.” If you don’t like what is in front of you – change it! “You’ve got what it takes, but it will take everything you’ve got.”

This involves planning and developing a vision. You will have to be determined and persevere – but be prepared because sometimes it won’t be easy. The currency may be your blood, sweat and tears. Are you prepared to give that? And, sometimes it won’t work out. Self-talk helps here: “You didn’t come this far to only come this far.”

Although it’s disappointing, remind yourself there’s always Plan B or C.

Sometimes you will have to go through a storm to appreciate the beauty of a rainbow. And although it’s not easy to find this treasure, it is definitely worth it. Share your talent and let yourself shine. “The meaning of life is to find your gift, the purpose of life is to give it away.” This is what will give you joy and inner peace.

So the next time, you’re debating on what to give someone or you’re feeling unmotivated, and don’t feel like giving it all you’ve got – remember “from little seeds grow mighty trees.” To reap these benefits, you’re going to have to invest in the gift of your time. “Your greatness is not what you have, it’s what you give”

A Reflection on Being Authentic

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Be okay with who you are. Let go of who you think you’re supposed to be. Love yourself, accept yourself. Don’t change yourself for anyone; the world will adjust. Be yourself, your true self, everywhere and with everyone. Stop hiding. Just let yourself go, fly and be free!

How Not to Fail

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D is for Don’t Give Up and Don’t Give In – You only fail when you stop trying.  It doesn’t matter how slow you go, as long as you don’t stop.  There are 3 choices: give up, give in, or give it all you’ve got!