Thought of the Day

Reflections

Reflections

What I see

When I see you

Says more about me

Than it does about you.

What you see

When you see me

Says more about you

Than it does about me.

What we hear

And what we say

What we think

And what we feel

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Bouncing back and forth

Reflecting you

Reflecting me

One angled facet

Of the whole.

One true or distorted version

Of the many.

All in Good Time

S is for Stop Procrastinating

Inspired by S is for Stop Procrastinating – DALAI LAMA -LIVE ONE DAY AT A TIME AND MAKE IT A MASTERPIECE

Why Do We Procrastinate?

There are many reasons why we procrastinate. Some of these reasons include fear, exhaustion, or feeling sorry for ourselves. Many of them can be wrapped up in emotions, and sometimes we don’t even understand how or why we are not doing things we know we should be doing or even things we ultimately want to do. Take a look at this graphic for some other reasons we procrastinate:

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The bottom line for procrastinating, however, is that we’re just not ready to tackle the task at hand. And in most cases – that’s okay. (However, in some cases you may need to seek professional help.) Sometimes things take time, and when we are ready, we will get to that task.

And have you noticed that when we do procrastinate, we will choose to do so many other things? The most obvious thing we will do is something else we would rather do. But sometimes, we will even choose to do something else we would rather NOT do, so long as it ranks higher on the list than the task at hand. Some things we do at this time may be considered mindless, like surfing the net or even watching a show without even paying attention to it. Take a look at this graphic for some more things we do when we procrastinate:

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But sometimes we get insistent on needing to do something else first, such as cleaning or exercising – almost like a ritual. If you’re at this point, good for you – that means you’re close to getting the task done. If this works for you, it’s a good thing because you’re actually getting two things done that need to get done.

Sometimes we need to set the mood first, such as with background music. Sometimes it is beyond our control and the mood is set for us. Have you ever noticed that an emotion like anger can trigger you into getting a task done? This connection kind of makes sense. If it’s an emotion that started your procrastination, it can take an emotion to end your procrastination.

Other ideas that can help us stop procrastinating include changing scenery, gathering resources, making a plan, and just trying something new and different. Take a look at this graphic for more details on ideas that can help us stop procrastinating:

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If you have another idea that has helped you to stop procrastinating, please share.

Thought of the Day

Life brings change,

And change brings life.

 

Who am I?

Who am I?

Who am I? A Poem by Darlene Wiggers

Who am I?

Do you really know me?

Do you dare to come near?

You may think I am aloof or arrogant.

But I may be easily misread.

The layers of my onion may fool you.

Will you dismiss me too quickly?

But I may be good for you,

As I am an acquired healthy taste.

Who am I?

Do you really know me?

Do you dare to come near?

I am the roaring sound of a seashell,

Holding memories of long ago.

Do you have the time to hear them?

Will I open up to you?

I may touch you with my stories.

Am I worth the time to you?

Who am I?

Do you really know me?

Do you dare to come near?

I am the fragrant scent of a rose,

Nursed by the summer sun and the rain.

My heart is true and authentic,

But I see that not all hearts are.

So, I have grown thorns to protect me.

Who are you? Will I trust you? Will I let you come in?

Who am I?

Do you really know me?

Do you dare to come near?

I am a hidden gem in my oyster shell,

Sometimes overlooked.

My value is appreciating,

Just like the weight of gold.

Will you take the time to culture me?

I just may climatize to you.

Who am I?

Do you really know me?

Do you dare to come near?

It takes much more time to know me.

You may not “see” me even at second sight.

When I am scared,

I am protected by my turtle shell.

But when I am strong,

I pop like a beautiful firecracker.

Will you miss me in the blink of an eye?

I have so much to offer.

Do you have the patience for me?

It’s your loss, if you walk away,

I know I am worth more than just a few tries.

Practise Makes Perfect – NOT!

Inspired by P is for Practice Makes Perfect – DALAI LAMA -LIVE ONE DAY AT A TIME AND MAKE IT A MASTERPIECE

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First off, it’s NOT about being perfect. Don’t get me wrong; I’m not saying you don’t need perfectiondestroysto practise. Even the pros continue to practise, because as it is said, “If you don’t use it, you lose it.” But perfection is an ideal, and an ideal is not only for the most part, unreasonable, but it is also static. As things are always changing, to survive, we must also adapt to those changes. Ideals don’t allow for this. Instead, we need to look at it as a model and be prepared to make changes, if and when necessary. We set ourselves up for failure when we aim for perfection. We need to practise to get better, not perfect. We need to strive for excellence. We need to do the best we can do – NOT perfection.

If you strive for perfection, you can caught up in a whirl wind of thinking that you are not good enough. Give yourself a chance and realize that PerfectNothingit’s not meant to be perfect the first time you attempt something (or any other time). Don’t let yourself get paralyzed with the fear of not being good enough before you even begin! No matter how slow the progress is, you are still moving forward (“One step forward, two steps back” may be slow, but it’s better than being stuck and not moving at all.)

You are your worst enemy, if you believe in perfection. If you do make a mistake, no – correction – when you make a mistake – own up to it. After all, you are human. At that time, I’m sure you did what you thought was best, considering the circumstances. Perhaps the time in question wasn’t picture perfect (as it often isn’t). All you can do is make the best out of your current situation. Don’t keep replaying the event – “Why did I do that? I should have…I wish I had…” Don’t beat yourself up. Hindsight really is 20/20. And you can’t go back and redo it now, anyways.

If you did the best you can do, you need to let it go and move on. Let yourself be satisfied, and let yourself move on. And don’t let this discourage you. Nobody likes to make striveforprogressmistakes, but you set yourself up for failure when you expect perfection on your first attempt (or any attempt). Ease up – it’s okay to make mistakes. It’s not only part of the process, it’s a progression. That’s right – you’re making progress even when you make a mistake! The important part is what follows: stick with it, learn from it, and try again!

worthitYou will need to have many practice runs before you’re excellent at something. But stay focused. And remember, it’s okay to seek guidance. You’re not expected to be an expert when you’re new at something. It may take longer than expected, and that’s okay (But, again, don’t overthink things – know when to let it go and move on.) You may also have doubts when you find it really challenging, also expected (Nothing worth having, comes easy). But in the end, you will come to realize that it was worth the struggle.

Rather than focusing on perfection, just be your true authentic self. Be in the moment, feel it, and it will fall into place. It will feel right. There may be certain steps you have bepresentnotperfectstudied, but at some point you need to let go of that because it’s already part of who you are. You know what you’re doing now. Trying to remember that text book example exactly step by step is counterproductive now. Get over it! Not only that, there’s theory and then there’s application. That’s right – sometimes a curve ball is thrown at you and you need to deal with it – just follow your instincts and do the best you can. Remember, everything is in a state of flux and things are always evolving. We, too, always need to adjust and rise to a new level of excellence.

“Better to be slapped with the truth than kissed with a lie”???

Inspired by N is for Never Lie, Cheat, or Steal – DALAI LAMA -LIVE ONE DAY AT A TIME AND MAKE IT A MASTERPIECE

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Although some people say, “Better to be slapped with the truth than kissed with a lie” or “Hurt me with the truth, never comfort me with a lie”, I don’t believe this always holds true. Know your audience and gauge the circumstances.

“Before you speak, let your words pass through three gates: is it true, is it necessary, is it kind?” But what if being true isn’t being kind? Then go with is it necessary? “Hear all, see all, say nothing.” Or at least use a filter. Sometimes, it’s about giving what is needed – If you are choosing between being kind and being right – choose being kind. “You have the choice – choose to be kind, honest, sincere, strong, loving, and always true to yourself.”

Never lie, cheat or steal.

T is for Trustworthy – Be trustworthy, have integrity, your word is important.

A is for Authenticity – Be true to yourself, be who you are, shine, stand up for what you believe in.

C is for Choices – We are faced with choices all day long. Be proud of the choices you make. Be kind.

T is for Truth – Use TACT when speaking the truth.

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Perspectives, Perceptions, and Expectations

TODAY’S MEDITATION | THE HEALING HAND

Here you will find a Collection of Ideas, Images, Meditations, Reflections, and Thoughts – These items resonate with me. I hope they will inspire you. Passion is the path to health. If you find your passion, you find your vitality and you revitalize. Stay on the path!

Inspired by U is for Understand Yourself in Order to Better Understand Others – DALAI LAMA -LIVE ONE DAY AT A TIME AND MAKE IT A MASTERPIECE

Perspectives, Perceptions, and Expectations – A Poem by Darlene Wiggers

There are three sides to every story:

Your side,

Their side,

And somewhere in the middle is the truth.

So don’t judge.

You don’t have all the facts.

You don’t know where people have been,

Or where they’re at now.

And on top of that,

Each person’s nature is different:

They may like to talk, they may like to keep to themselves.

They may be more sensitive, or less sensitive than you.

They may be stronger, or weaker than you…

You can apply a spectrum to anything,

And where you lay on it will be different from someone else.

So don’t judge.

Some people judge far too easily and are not very forgiving.

Before you complain about someone else’s faults, take a good look at your own.

Each person has many layers.

And even if someone wears their heart on their sleeve,

You still don’t see it all.

At that moment, they may be strong enough,

And they may be selective in what they choose to reveal.

Someone could be really hurting, and you may not have a clue.

Set high expectations and rise – good words to live by

And usually works.

But sometimes not.

So be prepared to make adjustments.

You may need to lower expectations.

Don’t be so hard on yourself, or others.

You may expect yourself or others to act in a certain way,

Be in a certain place,

Do the appropriate thing –

But maybe that’s not possible at this time.

You may be ready, but at that time others may not be.

Maybe they can’t put on a strong face at that moment.

Maybe they can’t be there for you because they need to be there for themselves.

So give yourself or them a pass, and let it go.

Even if you don’t understand, even if it doesn’t make sense –

Because you don’t really know the whole truth.

 

The Impossible

TODAY’S MEDITATION | THE HEALING HAND

Here you will find a Collection of Ideas, Images, Meditations, Reflections, and Thoughts – These items resonate with me. I hope they will inspire you. Passion is the path to health. If you find your passion, you find your vitality and you revitalize. Stay on the path!

The Impossible

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THE IMPOSSIBLE – A POEM BY DARLENE WIGGERS

 

Anything is possible

You just have to believe

When everything lines up

It’s easy to achieve

 

Removing limitations

Adjusting expectations

Past, present, future

Is just an illusion of time

 

Forgiving and forgetting

Vulnerability with an open mind

Let loose and see where it takes you

Just give it a try

 

Positivity flows in the right direction

The plan includes unexpected purposes

Turning balanced changes into small miracles

The impossible CAN be in the future!

The Sequel

TODAY’S MEDITATION | THE HEALING HAND

Here you will find a Collection of Ideas, Images, Meditations, Reflections, and Thoughts – These items resonate with me. I hope they will inspire you. Passion is the path to health. If you find your passion, you find your vitality and you revitalize. Stay on the path!

 

 

The Sequel – A Poem by Darlene Wiggers

Words unspoken

Thoughts that abound

Emotions are reeling

The healing that hurts

 

Once upon a time

Happily ever after

The sequel is ending

A new story begins

 

Pain and suffering

Humour that heals

The heart is aching

Searching for hope

 

Life is for living,

Laughing, loving, and forgiving

Not judging and regretting

But understanding and appreciating