Practise Makes Perfect – NOT!

Inspired by P is for Practice Makes Perfect – DALAI LAMA -LIVE ONE DAY AT A TIME AND MAKE IT A MASTERPIECE

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First off, it’s NOT about being perfect. Don’t get me wrong; I’m not saying you don’t need perfectiondestroysto practise. Even the pros continue to practise, because as it is said, “If you don’t use it, you lose it.” But perfection is an ideal, and an ideal is not only for the most part, unreasonable, but it is also static. As things are always changing, to survive, we must also adapt to those changes. Ideals don’t allow for this. Instead, we need to look at it as a model and be prepared to make changes, if and when necessary. We set ourselves up for failure when we aim for perfection. We need to practise to get better, not perfect. We need to strive for excellence. We need to do the best we can do – NOT perfection.

If you strive for perfection, you can caught up in a whirl wind of thinking that you are not good enough. Give yourself a chance and realize that PerfectNothingit’s not meant to be perfect the first time you attempt something (or any other time). Don’t let yourself get paralyzed with the fear of not being good enough before you even begin! No matter how slow the progress is, you are still moving forward (“One step forward, two steps back” may be slow, but it’s better than being stuck and not moving at all.)

You are your worst enemy, if you believe in perfection. If you do make a mistake, no – correction – when you make a mistake – own up to it. After all, you are human. At that time, I’m sure you did what you thought was best, considering the circumstances. Perhaps the time in question wasn’t picture perfect (as it often isn’t). All you can do is make the best out of your current situation. Don’t keep replaying the event – “Why did I do that? I should have…I wish I had…” Don’t beat yourself up. Hindsight really is 20/20. And you can’t go back and redo it now, anyways.

If you did the best you can do, you need to let it go and move on. Let yourself be satisfied, and let yourself move on. And don’t let this discourage you. Nobody likes to make striveforprogressmistakes, but you set yourself up for failure when you expect perfection on your first attempt (or any attempt). Ease up – it’s okay to make mistakes. It’s not only part of the process, it’s a progression. That’s right – you’re making progress even when you make a mistake! The important part is what follows: stick with it, learn from it, and try again!

worthitYou will need to have many practice runs before you’re excellent at something. But stay focused. And remember, it’s okay to seek guidance. You’re not expected to be an expert when you’re new at something. It may take longer than expected, and that’s okay (But, again, don’t overthink things – know when to let it go and move on.) You may also have doubts when you find it really challenging, also expected (Nothing worth having, comes easy). But in the end, you will come to realize that it was worth the struggle.

Rather than focusing on perfection, just be your true authentic self. Be in the moment, feel it, and it will fall into place. It will feel right. There may be certain steps you have bepresentnotperfectstudied, but at some point you need to let go of that because it’s already part of who you are. You know what you’re doing now. Trying to remember that text book example exactly step by step is counterproductive now. Get over it! Not only that, there’s theory and then there’s application. That’s right – sometimes a curve ball is thrown at you and you need to deal with it – just follow your instincts and do the best you can. Remember, everything is in a state of flux and things are always evolving. We, too, always need to adjust and rise to a new level of excellence.

New Year’s Resolution – To Your Health!

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Now is the time to commit to your health! Make a S.M.A.R.T. Goal (SMART Goal) – For example: I will help to improve energy and reduce stress through 12 Reflexology treatments in 2019, beginning this month, by booking the appointments now. The Healing Hand is currently accepting new clients. Contact me now at www.thehealinghand.ca/contact and take advantage of my Loyalty Program!

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You Can Only Put Yourself “On Hold” for So Long

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Here you will find a Collection of Ideas, Images, Meditations, Reflections, and Thoughts – These items resonate with me. I hope they will inspire you. Passion is the path to health. If you find your passion, you find your vitality and you revitalize. Stay on the path!

Inspired by L is for Love Yourself – DALAI LAMA -LIVE ONE DAY AT A TIME AND MAKE IT A MASTERPIECE

L is for Love Yourself

The demands of life are many, and all too often there is little time left for yourself at the end of the day. But as long as you have some time for yourself, it will be okay. Day to day is manageable. Sometimes there are extra demands, and even that’s okay. It’s to be expected – life happens. Although you know that it’s important to have time for yourself, you can put yourself “on hold” when you need to. The problem arises NOT when life throws you a curve ball.  The problem arises when life throws you a few major life curve balls that carry on for too long. When you can’t even do what you need to do, let alone what you want to do, the problems begin.  You know you’re here when it’s an understatement to say that “Life is too demanding” and it’s too easy to say, “I’m not having any fun”. But you carry on by prioritizing because you have to, and you know that it can’t go on like this forever. Then finally when the heaviness begins to lift, you realize that life now has a “new” normal. It’s a slow process “putting back the pieces”, and it does take time. But being “whole” will not happen until you take time out for yourself, for you can only put yourself “on hold” for so long. Rebuild yourself, for you will not be able to be there for others unless and until you are there for yourself.

The Impossible

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Here you will find a Collection of Ideas, Images, Meditations, Reflections, and Thoughts – These items resonate with me. I hope they will inspire you. Passion is the path to health. If you find your passion, you find your vitality and you revitalize. Stay on the path!

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THE IMPOSSIBLE – A POEM BY DARLENE WIGGERS

 

Anything is possible

You just have to believe

When everything lines up

It’s easy to achieve

 

Removing limitations

Adjusting expectations

Past, present, future

Is just an illusion of time

 

Forgiving and forgetting

Vulnerability with an open mind

Let loose and see where it takes you

Just give it a try

 

Positivity flows in the right direction

The plan includes unexpected purposes

Turning balanced changes into small miracles

The impossible CAN be in the future!

The Sequel

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The Sequel – A Poem by Darlene Wiggers

Words unspoken

Thoughts that abound

Emotions are reeling

The healing that hurts

 

Once upon a time

Happily ever after

The sequel is ending

A new story begins

 

Pain and suffering

Humour that heals

The heart is aching

Searching for hope

 

Life is for living,

Laughing, loving, and forgiving

Not judging and regretting

But understanding and appreciating

It comes down to one simple thing: How bad do you want it?

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Inspired by J is for Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it – DALAI LAMA -LIVE ONE DAY AT A TIME AND MAKE IT A MASTERPIECE

There are many ways to define success, but this entry is not about that. For the purpose of this entry, I am thinking of success as something towards which you are working.

Sometimes when you work hard towards something, you may begin to wonder if it is really worth it after all? You are putting in so much time and as the saying goes: “a lot of blood, sweat, and tears”. But remember, no one said it was going to be easy. At this time, you need to dig deep and do some soul searching. You need to ask yourself, “Is this something I really want?” It is important that this is your goal and not someone else’s. After all, it is your life. If it is definitely not what you want, then stop reading right now. But if it is what you want, or even if you’re not sure, please read on. You can decide on this later. Maybe you’ll have an “aha moment”, and realize that it is what you want, after all.

You should try to visualize what things would look like if you achieved this goal. If you have doubts and are not happy with what you see, then paint a different picture:  see it in a positive light; see it as though things worked out. See yourself being confident in this role; see yourself being happy in this role. Now, keep that picture at the forefront of your mind, and don’t let go of it!

“The reason why people give up so fast is because they tend to look at how far they still have to go, instead of how far they have come.” As you work towards a goal, it’s okay to pause and reflect, even if you are so busy. Take a moment, and remember all the little successes that have brought you to this point. Yes, it was hard, but focus on the positive. It might be good to write down your successes and or talk to someone about them. Your successes are very real, and you are the one who did it! You made it happen! Don’t discount this – there is great value in what you have done so far! Give yourself a pat on the back! Take a moment to relish these little successes that have brought you to this point.

“Success is no accident. It’s hard work, perseverance, learning, studying, sacrifice, and most of all, love for what you are doing or learning to do.” “Success demands for sacrifices: Sacrifice of sleep, sacrifice of entertainment, sacrifice of comfort zone.” And

really “it comes down to one simple thing: how bad do you want it?” I know, you’re tired, and you don’t know if you can do this anymore, but you are loved and you have lots of support. Believe in yourself. You can do this! And sacrifice always comes before success, so you’re going to have to work for it. As it is said in microeconomics, there is an “opportunity cost”. You are going to have to give up something in order to get what you want.

You may not even like what you have to do now, but remember the shape of things to come will be different. And what you have to do may make you feel uncomfortable – but you are going to have to get out of your comfort zone to see this through. And you will grow, as a result: “Be willing to sacrifice comfort for growth.” This is the time to remind yourself of: “See the end result in a positive light; see it as though things worked out. See yourself being confident in this role; see yourself being happy in this role. Now, keep that picture at the forefront of your mind, and don’t let go of it.” In other words, “keep your eyes on the prize!”

In the meantime, “Do what you have to do until you can do what you want to do.” And remember, “in order to achieve your goals you must make sacrifices, commit daily, overcome challenges and work your plan. No one can do it for you. It is up to you.” But no matter what, “Never sacrifice these three things: your family, your heart, or your dignity.”

And when you achieve your goal, and you pause, reflect, and judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it, I hope you celebrate and say that it was worth it! The harder you work at something, the more you appreciate the result. This is similar to Newton’s Third Law: “Every action has an equal but opposite reaction.” And if you didn’t work that hard, it’s still a win! But what I mean is that you appreciate it more if you worked harder – it’s the equality of the exchange.

Don’t Be a Backseat Driver

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Here you will find a Collection of Ideas, Images, Meditations, Reflections, and Thoughts – These items resonate with me. I hope they will inspire you. Passion is the path to health. If you find your passion, you find your vitality and you revitalize. Stay on the path!

Inspired by I is for If Opportunity Doesn’t Knock, Build a Door – DALAI LAMA -LIVE ONE DAY AT A TIME AND MAKE IT A MASTERPIECE

When I first read this quote, I was pleasantly surprised about the part “build a door”. Perhaps you were, as well? Other responses might be, “oh yeah, that’s what I would do” or “no way, who would do that?” Our experiences and our genetic makeup play a role in shaping how we are, and will unquestionably have an effect on how we would react to any given situation. If you’ve had a string of bad luck, you could react pessimistically. Your faith is being tested, and your doubts could be on the rise. If you typically think “outside of the box”, you may approach “building this door” with creativity.  On the other hand, you may be afraid of “building this door” because you lack confidence and or skill.  You may also be in need of motivation, if you aren’t willing to put in the work it takes. But if you are naturally a proactive person, chances are you will be prepared to “build the door”.

As stated previously, our experiences and our genetic makeup shape how we are, and past experiences can be an indicator of future performance (that’s why many establishments rely on behavioural interviews). However, a paradigm shift can change all this. It begins with becoming more aware of yourself, and being open-minded to seeing things from a different perspective. These things don’t, of course, change overnight but little changes in attitude can go a long way.

The point of this is that sometimes we all feel stuck or trapped. Some of us do something about it, and some of us don’t. Responsibilities may play a role in this, when timing isn’t right. But you can still do something about it. Use this time to prepare – take a course, research, network, put aside some money…All of these will help you to get unstuck and move you forward in the direction of a new opportunity. The key is to live each day in hope – always have something to look forward to or to work towards.

Every day we are faced with decisions, big and small, which ultimately affect the direction of our lives. Where are you going? Where do you want to go? Sometimes we forget we are in the driver’s seat. A variety of choices are always available. Don’t be a backseat driver; take the wheel in your hands. Adjust your approach to change your outlook, and make it happen!

Are you ready for opportunity?

Are You Sleep Walking Through Your Life?

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Here you will find a Collection of Ideas, Images, Meditations, Reflections, and Thoughts – These items resonate with me. I hope they will inspire you. Passion is the path to health. If you find your passion, you find your vitality and you revitalize. Stay on the path!

Inspired by H is for Hold onto Your Dreams – DALAI LAMA -LIVE ONE DAY AT A TIME AND MAKE IT A MASTERPIECE

Excuse the apparent dichotomy, but this reflection is not going to begin as you might expect. Although it is inspired by Hold onto your Dreams, I’m beginning with the idea of Letting Go; not of letting go of your dreams, but rather letting go of other things that hold you back – things such as not liking change, fear, guilt, and the past.

  1. We need to let go of not liking change.

    People get used to their routines. Routines can be very helpful, but sometimes it’s good to mix it up – “Variety is the spice of life”. Trying something new is different from what we are used to. We feel safe with what is “tried and true”, so it’s natural that there is some resistance. But with change, comes growth – and growth means vitality. Think of someone you know who is following their dream(s). Wouldn’t you say they are full of life? That’s because they are being true to themselves. They are full of passion because they have figured out their purpose. Following your dreams bring out your passion, and having a passion is invigorating. Dreams can be the seeds of your future, if you let them. So be open to embracing change so you can move forward.

  2. We need to let go of fear, but not all of it.

    If something gives you fear and excitement, it might be worth a try. Balance is key in letting go and holding on – let yourself be more inspired and less terrified. Of course, we feel safer with both feet on the ground, but you’re never going to fly with both feet on the ground. On the flip side, you can’t live on Cloud 9. There’s a fine line between being practical, realistic, sensible and being idealistic, ambitious, and visionary. A little fear is good because it helps to keep you grounded. And yes, I know there is risk involved with having one foot off the ground. But if you don’t take a calculated risk, you lose the chance. I have come across two acronyms for FEAR – Forget Everything And Run or Face Everything And Rise, very reminiscent of the flight or fight response to stress. So how do you Face Everything and Rise, especially when doubts are plaguing you? You need to have some courage, hope, and faith. “Feed your faith and your doubts will starve to death.” Surround yourself with people who support and encourage you. Once you believe and have a vision of your dream, the next step is to create a good plan, and follow through. “Dream big, work hard, make it happen.” That’s how you make your dream a reality.

  3. We need to let go of guilt, sometimes.

    We all have responsibilities, and we are accountable to so many people for so many things. Yes, the bills need to get paid, and we need to get our children to that soccer game…, but we forget that we also need to be accountable to ourselves. Often, we get so wrapped up in what other people will think if we do or don’t do something that is expected. If we always succumb to other people’s expectations, we are held back from realizing our own. This is where prioritizing, compromising, and time management come into play. Time is so precious, and we can’t always be everything to everyone everywhere. Sometimes it’s okay to say “no” to someone else so that you can say “yes” to yourself. This gives you the time you need to just be yourself, or it puts you on the path to discovering yourself. You shouldn’t feel guilty about that. You are very important too. So, follow your dreams, you deserve it.

  4. We need to let go of the past.

    We need to accept the past, not live in it; no matter what you do, the past cannot be changed. We often feel bad about something that we did, and it gets lumped into our bag of failures. This eats away at our confidence, and we are back to number 2 from above – fear. It’s a vicious cycle from which it can be hard to break free. We often feel sorry for ourselves and get stuck in a deep well.  In short, we beat ourselves up over it, again and again. The key is to turn that lemon into lemonade. Accept that a mistake/failure happened, but don’t sabotage yourself by dwelling in it. If you allow yourself to live in the past, you will have regrets in the future about not pursuing your dream. Instead, take a few steps back from the situation, and ask yourself, “What can I learn from this? How can I improve? What would I do differently next time? What is my takeaway?” There is always a lesson to be learned, so decide to focus on that. Let go of the past, and allow yourself to set a new goal or dream a new dream, before you run out of time. We only have one life to live – what are you waiting for?

Letting go can be hard, and it may take some time before you’re able to do it. “When you let go, you create space for better things to enter your life” – just like when you buy new things, you should eliminate one of your belongings. It’s part of housecleaning and decluttering. I believe that letting go to pursue your dreams may be related to minimalism. Things that hold you back also hold you down. There is freedom in letting go.

So, what would you rather do – “sleep with your dreams or wake up and chase them”? Do you really want to be sleep walking through your life? Let go of things that hold you back. Yes, there will be unknowns. Step out of your comfort zone. It will be both exciting and scary. After all, it is an adventure. You will learn, you will grow, and you will find yourself! Just have some courage and believe. “Dream as if you’ll live forever, live as if you’ll die today.”

Carpe diem!