Who am I?

Who am I?

Who am I? A Poem by Darlene Wiggers

Who am I?

Do you really know me?

Do you dare to come near?

You may think I am aloof or arrogant.

But I may be easily misread.

The layers of my onion may fool you.

Will you dismiss me too quickly?

But I may be good for you,

As I am an acquired healthy taste.

Who am I?

Do you really know me?

Do you dare to come near?

I am the roaring sound of a seashell,

Holding memories of long ago.

Do you have the time to hear them?

Will I open up to you?

I may touch you with my stories.

Am I worth the time to you?

Who am I?

Do you really know me?

Do you dare to come near?

I am the fragrant scent of a rose,

Nursed by the summer sun and the rain.

My heart is true and authentic,

But I see that not all hearts are.

So, I have grown thorns to protect me.

Who are you? Will I trust you? Will I let you come in?

Who am I?

Do you really know me?

Do you dare to come near?

I am a hidden gem in my oyster shell,

Sometimes overlooked.

My value is appreciating,

Just like the weight of gold.

Will you take the time to culture me?

I just may climatize to you.

Who am I?

Do you really know me?

Do you dare to come near?

It takes much more time to know me.

You may not “see” me even at second sight.

When I am scared,

I am protected by my turtle shell.

But when I am strong,

I pop like a beautiful firecracker.

Will you miss me in the blink of an eye?

I have so much to offer.

Do you have the patience for me?

It’s your loss, if you walk away,

I know I am worth more than just a few tries.

“Better to be slapped with the truth than kissed with a lie”???

Inspired by N is for Never Lie, Cheat, or Steal – DALAI LAMA -LIVE ONE DAY AT A TIME AND MAKE IT A MASTERPIECE

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Although some people say, “Better to be slapped with the truth than kissed with a lie” or “Hurt me with the truth, never comfort me with a lie”, I don’t believe this always holds true. Know your audience and gauge the circumstances.

“Before you speak, let your words pass through three gates: is it true, is it necessary, is it kind?” But what if being true isn’t being kind? Then go with is it necessary? “Hear all, see all, say nothing.” Or at least use a filter. Sometimes, it’s about giving what is needed – If you are choosing between being kind and being right – choose being kind. “You have the choice – choose to be kind, honest, sincere, strong, loving, and always true to yourself.”

Never lie, cheat or steal.

T is for Trustworthy – Be trustworthy, have integrity, your word is important.

A is for Authenticity – Be true to yourself, be who you are, shine, stand up for what you believe in.

C is for Choices – We are faced with choices all day long. Be proud of the choices you make. Be kind.

T is for Truth – Use TACT when speaking the truth.

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Perspectives, Perceptions, and Expectations

TODAY’S MEDITATION | THE HEALING HAND

Here you will find a Collection of Ideas, Images, Meditations, Reflections, and Thoughts – These items resonate with me. I hope they will inspire you. Passion is the path to health. If you find your passion, you find your vitality and you revitalize. Stay on the path!

Inspired by U is for Understand Yourself in Order to Better Understand Others – DALAI LAMA -LIVE ONE DAY AT A TIME AND MAKE IT A MASTERPIECE

Perspectives, Perceptions, and Expectations – A Poem by Darlene Wiggers

There are three sides to every story:

Your side,

Their side,

And somewhere in the middle is the truth.

So don’t judge.

You don’t have all the facts.

You don’t know where people have been,

Or where they’re at now.

And on top of that,

Each person’s nature is different:

They may like to talk, they may like to keep to themselves.

They may be more sensitive, or less sensitive than you.

They may be stronger, or weaker than you…

You can apply a spectrum to anything,

And where you lay on it will be different from someone else.

So don’t judge.

Some people judge far too easily and are not very forgiving.

Before you complain about someone else’s faults, take a good look at your own.

Each person has many layers.

And even if someone wears their heart on their sleeve,

You still don’t see it all.

At that moment, they may be strong enough,

And they may be selective in what they choose to reveal.

Someone could be really hurting, and you may not have a clue.

Set high expectations and rise – good words to live by

And usually works.

But sometimes not.

So be prepared to make adjustments.

You may need to lower expectations.

Don’t be so hard on yourself, or others.

You may expect yourself or others to act in a certain way,

Be in a certain place,

Do the appropriate thing –

But maybe that’s not possible at this time.

You may be ready, but at that time others may not be.

Maybe they can’t put on a strong face at that moment.

Maybe they can’t be there for you because they need to be there for themselves.

So give yourself or them a pass, and let it go.

Even if you don’t understand, even if it doesn’t make sense –

Because you don’t really know the whole truth.

 

You Can Only Put Yourself “On Hold” for So Long

TODAY’S MEDITATION | THE HEALING HAND

Here you will find a Collection of Ideas, Images, Meditations, Reflections, and Thoughts – These items resonate with me. I hope they will inspire you. Passion is the path to health. If you find your passion, you find your vitality and you revitalize. Stay on the path!

Inspired by L is for Love Yourself – DALAI LAMA -LIVE ONE DAY AT A TIME AND MAKE IT A MASTERPIECE

L is for Love Yourself

The demands of life are many, and all too often there is little time left for yourself at the end of the day. But as long as you have some time for yourself, it will be okay. Day to day is manageable. Sometimes there are extra demands, and even that’s okay. It’s to be expected – life happens. Although you know that it’s important to have time for yourself, you can put yourself “on hold” when you need to. The problem arises NOT when life throws you a curve ball.  The problem arises when life throws you a few major life curve balls that carry on for too long. When you can’t even do what you need to do, let alone what you want to do, the problems begin.  You know you’re here when it’s an understatement to say that “Life is too demanding” and it’s too easy to say, “I’m not having any fun”. But you carry on by prioritizing because you have to, and you know that it can’t go on like this forever. Then finally when the heaviness begins to lift, you realize that life now has a “new” normal. It’s a slow process “putting back the pieces”, and it does take time. But being “whole” will not happen until you take time out for yourself, for you can only put yourself “on hold” for so long. Rebuild yourself, for you will not be able to be there for others unless and until you are there for yourself.

The Impossible

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Here you will find a Collection of Ideas, Images, Meditations, Reflections, and Thoughts – These items resonate with me. I hope they will inspire you. Passion is the path to health. If you find your passion, you find your vitality and you revitalize. Stay on the path!

The Impossible

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THE IMPOSSIBLE – A POEM BY DARLENE WIGGERS

 

Anything is possible

You just have to believe

When everything lines up

It’s easy to achieve

 

Removing limitations

Adjusting expectations

Past, present, future

Is just an illusion of time

 

Forgiving and forgetting

Vulnerability with an open mind

Let loose and see where it takes you

Just give it a try

 

Positivity flows in the right direction

The plan includes unexpected purposes

Turning balanced changes into small miracles

The impossible CAN be in the future!

Listen to Your Intuition

TODAY’S MEDITATION | THE HEALING HAND

Here you will find a Collection of Ideas, Images, Meditations, Reflections, and Thoughts – These items resonate with me. I hope they will inspire you. Passion is the path to health. If you find your passion, you find your vitality and you revitalize. Stay on the path!

Inspired by K is for Keep Trying No Matter How Hard it Seems – DALAI LAMA -LIVE ONE DAY AT A TIME AND MAKE IT A MASTERPIECE

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I am not a huge roller coaster fan, but I feel that life is like a roller coaster sometimes. The length of a second or a minute is the same in either, however, the perception of it varies depending on your personality or the particular situation. The highs are often fast paced while the lows are long lived. If you like it, you can’t get enough of it and long for more, but if it’s not your cup of tea, you can’t wait for it to be over and don’t want to go through it again. If you are orange, you thrive on the thrills and risks. But some people aren’t built for the ups and downs (yet), and end up “throwing up”.

Mindset is your power. To maneuver through the ups and downs you need to develop “Grit” (Angela Duckworth). When you fail, you may need some time to regroup – take the time if you need it, and if the situation allows for it. You may need to re-evaluate. What does this setback mean? Are you ready to continue on this path, or do you need to redirect? Don’t feel bad. There is value in each situation. Learn from it and grow. Build your resilience for the next challenge you face on the path of your life.

Be open-minded and open up all of your senses. You may need to work on this; practice mindfulness – it helps. Listen to your intuition – sometimes you feel it is or isn’t right, and sometimes you just know. Be open to the signs that are there all around you; sometimes we’re too busy to notice. If the signs are ignored, the price can be steep.

There will be hard times, but if you know this to be your truth, trust in it. Keep the faith, and don’t stop trying.

Focus. Persevere. Triumph.

Don’t Be a Backseat Driver

TODAY’S MEDITATION | THE HEALING HAND

Here you will find a Collection of Ideas, Images, Meditations, Reflections, and Thoughts – These items resonate with me. I hope they will inspire you. Passion is the path to health. If you find your passion, you find your vitality and you revitalize. Stay on the path!

Inspired by I is for If Opportunity Doesn’t Knock, Build a Door – DALAI LAMA -LIVE ONE DAY AT A TIME AND MAKE IT A MASTERPIECE

When I first read this quote, I was pleasantly surprised about the part “build a door”. Perhaps you were, as well? Other responses might be, “oh yeah, that’s what I would do” or “no way, who would do that?” Our experiences and our genetic makeup play a role in shaping how we are, and will unquestionably have an effect on how we would react to any given situation. If you’ve had a string of bad luck, you could react pessimistically. Your faith is being tested, and your doubts could be on the rise. If you typically think “outside of the box”, you may approach “building this door” with creativity.  On the other hand, you may be afraid of “building this door” because you lack confidence and or skill.  You may also be in need of motivation, if you aren’t willing to put in the work it takes. But if you are naturally a proactive person, chances are you will be prepared to “build the door”.

As stated previously, our experiences and our genetic makeup shape how we are, and past experiences can be an indicator of future performance (that’s why many establishments rely on behavioural interviews). However, a paradigm shift can change all this. It begins with becoming more aware of yourself, and being open-minded to seeing things from a different perspective. These things don’t, of course, change overnight but little changes in attitude can go a long way.

The point of this is that sometimes we all feel stuck or trapped. Some of us do something about it, and some of us don’t. Responsibilities may play a role in this, when timing isn’t right. But you can still do something about it. Use this time to prepare – take a course, research, network, put aside some money…All of these will help you to get unstuck and move you forward in the direction of a new opportunity. The key is to live each day in hope – always have something to look forward to or to work towards.

Every day we are faced with decisions, big and small, which ultimately affect the direction of our lives. Where are you going? Where do you want to go? Sometimes we forget we are in the driver’s seat. A variety of choices are always available. Don’t be a backseat driver; take the wheel in your hands. Adjust your approach to change your outlook, and make it happen!

Are you ready for opportunity?